When we turn total control over to God,he gives us back self-control-that is ,his ability to say no to Satan;s temptations.We have the capacity to resist evil,a capacity that an unsaved person does not have.
One of the traits that God breaks in us is our voracious greed to satisfy our own longings and desires.He breaks us so we will want what he wants.We discover that God wants us to have what we need and what will bring us joy-very often things that we would never have dreamed would satisfy the deepest longings of our heart.Brokenness changes our desires.